Problem:
I am beginning to take offense at my grandchildren talking to me like I am a child. I think I have my faculties intact, but because I am over the age of thirty, I get the look that seems to imply I am old and therefore do not understand things. I personally find it rude to be brushed off because I am not with it because of age.
I read a lot and find that young people really do not think that once you are past a certain age you have value. I think it used to be that you respected your elders as they knew more because they have been around longer. I try not to take the looks seriously because one day they will be older and maybe their children and grandchildren will treat them the same way. It is true that I don’t know how to use my phone to the extent that it might have been created for. However, I make use of my phone the way that I feel is good for me. I am not on Tik Tok and the many social media apps that are out there. I don’t need a million followers, I just want to have friends and family that I stay in touch with and who care to stay in touch with me.
Should I tell them how I feel?
Discussion:
If it would change something sure. You have an opinion, and you could share it. I guess I would say that it may or may not make a difference. We live in a world that is much more advanced technologically and that is good to a certain degree. However, it seems that more and more social media is a fairy tale of people having everything and being beautiful and all is well. However, people are people, and they have issues like all of us do.
If you have read the “The Four Agreements” the second agreement is Do Not Take Anything Personally. People do what they do because they have not grown past that kind of behavior. I’m not even sure that your grand kids would recognize their behavior as inappropriate or rude. I used to think the phrase “it is what it is” was a rude statement. However sometimes it is just that. We have to deal with life the way it is and accept what life has to offer. If you love your grandchildren, kindly tell them how you feel. It isn’t up to you to change them, but it is up to you to express your opinions openly if you feel like it. Use your words wisely.
To submit problems, contact Juanita Sanchez, psychotherapist, by email at [email protected] or through High Plains Journal.
